Why I despise ‘choice feminism’. Shaving and not shaving aren’t equal, so stop pretending like they are.
It’s horrible that people are shamed if they don’t decide to follow societal norms. I agree there. I understand how these norms are restrictive and oppressive as institutions.
But what’s wrong with someone choosing to do so? I choose to shave. I didn’t realize that revoked my feminist license. This girl likes her armpit hair, and that’s fine. I personally hate mine, and that’s fine too. Why can’t everyone just mind their own damn bodies?
Ok it’s my first day of uni tomorrow and it’s already midnight here so i’m not going to get into a big argument like last night! So i’ll try and round up my thoughts now.
Firstly, where did i say you had to be hairy to be a feminist? No feminist licenses are getting revoked today, folks.
“Why can’t everyone just mind their own damn bodies” is a pretty problematic statement. It’s things like this that allow people to continue their routines without challenging them or critically thinking about them in any way. It’s why I hate phrases like “shave or don’t shave, wear makeup or don’t wear makeup, whatever! ^_^ < 333”. It’s so… timid. Moderate. It dances around the issue entirely and blocks debates about oppressive beauty rituals and misogyny.
The fact is, shaving is the easy option. The safe option. Society backs you up 110% on it. (Hey, whatever, do what you have to do to survive. I cover up my hairy legs in public.)
You will never be verbally or physically abused because of your choice to shave. That still blows my mind - that the least I can expect for being hairy is verbal harrassment, but if I’m unlucky it could be severe physical violence.
How is a ‘choice’ that is unfluenced by the media, your peers, your parents, your ENTIRE SOCIETY, throughout your ENTIRE life in any way comparable to the choice not to shave? Answer: it’s not. At all. Ever.
You say you’re making a choice. That’s cool. Honestly! it’s not like I send anon messages to people going “stop shaving u disgusting hairless freak omg wat is wrong with u”. But you’re also doing what you’re told. You’re engaging in a practice that is forced upon people.
I’ve said it many times on my blog and I’ll say it again: I will NEVER support dominant beauty regimes. People that wear makeup and shave and wear painful heels are congratulated enough irl - you have the whole of society backing you up. People that choose to be hairy do not have that luxury. So of course it’s fine that you shave - society’s told you that quite literally since you were a baby.
Oh, and to anyone out there that’s curious about growing their body hair: DO IT. I convinced myself that I hated body hair. That I ‘preferred’ to be smooth. But once I started growing it out, I realised how luscious and fuzzy and amazing the stuff is! Plus, it’s far less time contorting yourself into ridiculous positions trying to violently remove what is naturally a part of you.
Exactly. Saying “it doesn’t matter whether or not people shave” is to compare the two as if they were equally acceptable options. Maybe to you it doesn’t matter, but 98% of western society cares an awful fucking lot.
I dare anyone who disagrees to stop shaving for two months, go out in public displaying that body hair, and come back to me saying that it doesn’t matter.